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Absences and Fractures …. What does that mean?

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Heart with BandAidThe absence of the “Necessary Good Thing”, as Dr. Jim Wilder says in his book The Life Model, is a type “A” trauma. This comes to a person from the absence of good things that should have been received, the emotional nurture that when given, provides us all with stability of emotions and soul.  A fracture or type “B” trauma is a bad thing that should not have happened, but did. These fractures can lead to unresolved feelings that leave gaps or blanks of memory, otherwise called fractures of the mind. The mind was created with a protective mechanism to initially separate or forget a type “B” trauma as a means of protection. However, it also needs to be healed, or the body, mind and spirit will not be able to find complete wholeness.  Several examples of such absences include: [1]

Not being cherished and celebrated by parents or parental figures simply on the basis of one’s existence.

  1. Not having the experience of being a delight.
  2. Not having a parent take time to understand who you are or encouraging you to share who you are, what you think and what you feel.
  3. Not receiving large amounts of non-sexual physical nurturing – laps to sit on, arms to hold you, and a willingness to let you go when you have had enough.
  4. Not receiving age-appropriate limits.
  5. Not being taught how to do hard things- to problem solve, and to develop persistence.
  6. Not given opportunities to develop personal resources and talents.

With the absence of the necessary good thing, it is critical to be given welcoming new life-giving relationships that satisfy the neglected absences that the person has experienced. While prayer can help with the effects that this type “A” trauma has brought, it is in the presence of loving relationships where the healing is fully accomplished.

Both absences and fractures require care, prayer, and the love of a spiritual family in order to bring full healing and the blessedness of relationship with God, others and  within the person.  Coming with honest recognition and surrender to the pain and wounded places of the heart takes courage. It’s a choice and here’s the key, “For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the Man Christ Jesus”. I Timothy 2:5. He was wounded for our transgressions and longs for us to come to trust Him with all our hearts, minds, and souls.

[1] The Life Model. E. James Wilder, PhD

Let Us Consider One Another


Tree SwingHaving recently returned from a trip visiting with fellow ministry leaders and missionaries from around the world, I was struck by this verse in Hebrews 10:24, “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works”. As some of us met together, one of my ministry colleagues, Pauline LaPorte noted an interesting interaction with a Grandmother and her grandchild. The child was swinging on a backyard swing set, facing into the bright sun of the day. As she swung, she remarked, “I can’t see my shadow, Grandma.” To this the Grandmother replied, “Yes, you’re facing the sun, but it’s there behind you and we can see it!” Quickly, my friend Pauline saw the analogy from this simple interaction.

We believers are swinging along too, taking great effort as we set our course to focus on the “Son”, the Son of God – Christ Jesus. How many can agree that we might at times get a little nervous when we can’t see our own shadow, that impression made by the Lord as He masterfully  presses His image into the earth of our spirit or through relationships or other factors that affect  our sphere of influence.  We may be going along very happily, having our eyes focused on Him, and then in a moment our gaze is distracted. We don’t see our own shadow…How are we doing? Where is our place? Where is this calling actually bringing us…we may even have a flash of panic.

How great is our God.  Just when we can’t see our shadow, others can!

This simple reminder can nurture a deeper foundation of trust in us not to turn away from the precious acts and importance of “stirring up love and good works” in our fellow believer. More than this, we need others in our own lives who resolve to help us when we can’t see our shadow. Those who will lovingly and prayerfully call out to us. Every heart being knitted together in the bonds of love.

Share today with someone you know, how their shadow is making a difference on the earth!

Moses Searches for the Sin Offering


By Pastor Mark Brocato

In last week’s portion we find this following quote during the first day of regular sacrifices in the Mishkan (the Tabernacle).

Lev 10:16 Now Moses diligently inquired about the goat of the sin offering, and behold, it was burned up!

 Here are some of my personal musings on Moses search. Read More »

HE Made a Choice; We Make a Choice

Susie Med

Peter brings to light a new understanding of the concept of repentance to the 1st century believer.  The traditional Jewish understanding of getting oneself ritually clean and returning to proscribed temple worship was repentance, but Yeshua taught it was much more.  Believers were to approach YHVH with a changed heart.  Read More »

The Kingdom of Heaven


For two thousand years Christians have heard the phrase, “Kingdom of Heaven” uttered by its clergy. What does it mean? Unfortunately these utterances have conjured many misconceptions. Today we will examine the phrase attributed to Yeshua in Like 4:42-43. ” “I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns as well; for I was sent for this purpose.”. We will discover the beauty of  it’s meaning as understood in it ancient Hebrew context. Read More »

Do you come to me?


In our text this week, Jesus comes from the Galilee to John at the Jordan to be immersed.  Knowing who stands before him, in bewilderment, John asks, “…and do you come to me?”  A question that rings true in the heart of every disciple who has truly seen themselves in the light of His holiness. Read More »

The Ministry of Yeshua/Jesus & Our Response

Aleph & Tav


As we begin our new Torah cycle, our new year of Bible study, we look forward to exploring the depths and the heights of the life of the Messiah.   This year we will focus on the Gospels presented in harmony.  Thus, it is fitting that we begin this week with John 1:1, “In the beginning…,” echoing the words of Genesis, calling us to remember the foundation, and setting the scene for the revelation of the Messiah.  As we look at the first 18 verses of the Apostle John’s Gospel, we will uncover who Yeshua is, what He came to do, and how we should respond. Read More »

When God Says, “No”

When God Says No

This week’s reading (Deut 3:23-7:11) begins with Moses’ earnest prayer to the LORD to be able to enter the Promised Land, and he is told “No” by God.  (Deut 3:23) I am not sure I can count the number of times I have heard skeptics say, “I prayed, and God did not answer me,” as though God’s lack of answering their prayer in accordance with their desire is somehow a lack on God’s part.  They may have had very real heartfelt desires, perhaps even altruistic motives.  Nonetheless, I do not think the problem is God’s lack of answering.  I think the problem comes when we don’t like what God has to say. Read More »